c'est la vie.

MzJOWEE

"You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life." — Albert Camus

There are times in our lives where we go through the utmost pain, humiliation, heartbreak, and misery. Examples such as heartbreak, a loss of a job, or financial distress, it is easier for us nowadays to concentrate on our tribulations than to be completely optimistic. Last week I was depressed, unhappy and emotionally unstable blaming everyone for my grief. Until recently I realized that the only one that can make me happy is myself. We are only going to be at our happiest when we can finally let go and allow ourselves to be happy. In our lives, we focus on our problems because it seems like it hits us too many at a time. Big problems such as heartache, we always dwell in our own misery and drown on our own sorrows. If you think about it, how much better life would be if instead of plundering in your own depression (which is the easy road), you try just a little bit harder to be happy? When we deal with a lot of problems, we tend to compare ourselves with one another. There's always something that isn't right, or that shouldn't be because it's not what you expect. When will you realize that when you expect something your already setting yourself up for failure because nothing is ever going to be good enough?

What do we have to have that will make us truly happy? Is it the perfect kiss? The perfect job? The perfect love? Nothing can ever be perfect and thinking that perfection is the key to happiness will only disappoint you. I'm a firm believer that things happen for a reason. We may lose the one we love because they never deserved us in the first place. We may cry for a loss of a job but its only because there's a career waiting for you to take it. We may have failed a class, only to teach us that it's because we need to try harder. We may get sick, but it's only because we need to be taught to be more appreciative of our body.

• When we cry because someone has tremendously ripped us in half, are you thankful and appreciative for the people that worry about you? No, because you focus on the people who broke your heart only to realize they never deserved you in the first place.
• When you lose a job, do you get back up, revise your resume and send it out to different employers? no, you cry and think about how your not going to have any money to buy this or that, or merely to survive.
• When someone betrays you, do you appreciate the friends that take you out for the night on the town and get you fucked up like nobody's business? No, you cry and focus on why that person (WHO YOU DON'T NEED) betrayed you.
• When you feel like there's nothing left to live for, do you stop, think about the people that will be completely heartbroken if you were to disappear? No, you’re too selfish and just think about yourself.
• When something or someone causes you pain, do you take into consideration the advice that your love ones give you? No, you think about the revenge you want for the person who caused you agony.
• When you have no money to spend for Christmas, do you focus on the positive such as spending time with your family or your friends? No, you focus on how you can't get the latest game on ps3, the boots that you've been wanting all year, or the flat screen you've been dying to get.
• When you see children on the street, or the homeless just needing a little money, do you become thankful that your life isn't as bad as theirs? No, because you're too fixated on focusing on your materialistic problems.
  
• And when your lonely, do you focus on how happy life is now that you can finally take care of yourself before anyone else? No, you focus on the couple sitting right next to you, sipping a cup of coffee only to find yourself more miserable because you want someone to complete you.

We don't need someone to complete us, we can complete ourselves. We don't need someone who gives us heartbreak, because we deserve to be happy. We don't need an employer that doesn't want us; because we know we're worth more than that. We don't need to rely on other's to make us happy, because we can rely on ourselves to do that.

When you look at your life what's the first thing you see? Do you see how happy you are? or how miserable your life is? When you look at all the things in front of you such as your game consoles, your boots, your clothes, are you grateful? or do you keep wanting more? When you look at your family, do you criticize how boring, gay, or unfair they are? or do you smile because you know that they'll always be there? And when you see couples walking down the street holding hands are you disgusted because you don't have it? or happy because you KNOW you'll find it?

I'm not saying I’m the most optimistic person in the world because face it we're not robots and we have 1,000,000 types of emotions but if we're not happy, who's going to make us happy? ... Non but ourselves.

Just something to think about =)

Until next time...

cheer up life isn't as bad as you think it is.

xx.