c'est la vie.

MzJOWEE

“Three quarters of the miseries and misunderstandings in the world would finish if people were to put on the shoes of their adversaries and understood their points of view” - Ghandi

 As we grow up and become the person we’re supposed to be, we realize that we get used to how we live our lives and we start believing that the way we think is the right way. Coming from different backgrounds and families, it is almost impossible to find another person that grew up the same way you did, along with the same values and morals. Through different experiences I have met so many different types of personalities and even though it may be wrong to say it, I admit to have judged in the past. We all judge, and the term “no judgment” is merely a façade that different individuals say to prove they’re not imbecilic.

What happens when you come across an individual that is the complete opposite of you? Do you look at them, and all you see is judgment? Do you tell yourself “Wow, what an idiot, if I were her/him I would…” or “Why does she do that? If I was in his/her position...” It’s very rare for us to stop, catch ourselves in the act and actually think about what you were going to say and ponder if you should have said it in the first place.

Personally I have fallen victim on two of those counts, I’ve judged and I’ve been judged before. The person that I am today is what I built my life on, my values, my goals and my morals. A lot of people see me as a party type, I drink, I smoke, and I’m always out. This is what I write about in my blogs, and this is what I portray in front of people. When it’s drinking and party time, I’m one of the first people to call. When asking “What’s going on tonight?” I’m number one in the party speed dial list. When people see this, they associate partying with irresponsibility. Have you taken a look through the hazy glass and actually saw me for what I really am? That I’m not really just a party goer, but I’m family oriented, intellectually stimulating and I’m financially independent? I’ve also judged in the past, and I admit that that is a mistake that I’m going to keep on making as long as I live. I’m always going to be thinking what I would do in the situation, or what is right through my eyes…

 But everyone needs to realize (if you haven’t already) that the moral of the story is to stop being IGNORANT. We’re all different, yet we’re all the same. We think our lives are important enough that we feel the need to share our wisdom, when in actuality we have to share our wisdom with ourselves. You can’t expect someone to act a certain way if they weren’t raised or born that way. You can’t expect someone to “change” when they themselves haven’t realized that they should change. You can’t expect someone to have your same type of morals or beliefs because they have their own to worry about. And you can’t, can’t CAN NOT judge someone unless you have walked a mile in their shoes, and hit EVERY SINGLE problem and bump that they’ve been through.

This is a lesson that everyone needs to learn even myself.

Until next time…

have you walked in my shoes today?

xx.